|Official Website tracking the progress of the complaint
filed against the State of Arizona on January 6, 2014,
for Marriage Equality.
Wedding Interrupted by Hateful Rant
CORONADO, Calif. - A gay couple is sharing their story about a dream wedding day that took a hateful tum in Coronado.
From the smiles in the photos, you can see the joy of their wedding day. By the end of the wedding, that joy turned into frustration.
Arizonans Oscar De Las Salas and Gary Jackson - frequent visitors to San Diego - picked Coronado's Centennial Park for their Aug. 17 wedding. Some 30 guests from across the country flew in, including an Arizona congresswoman.
Around sunset that day, the happy couple walked in, took their positions and stood in a grassy spot near the water. The music died down and the shouting began.
Cell phone video shows the officiant standing in front of the couple while someone is shouting the words "homos" and "go home homos."
The shouts were loud and unmistakable. From the balcony of a nearby pricey condo complex, the couple and their wedding guests heard a string of homophobic slurs.
"He really wanted to humiliate the people there. He said, 'go home f***,"' said wedding musician David De Alva.
Whenever De Alva looked up, he said the balconies appeared empty. But throughout the service, the slurs kept coming.
In one photo, Jackson can be seen looking and turning toward the yelling.
"During the wedding vows, everyone stopped and turned," said De Las Salas.
As the moment of wedded bliss approached, De Las Salas - who was bullied as a child - was consumed with another emotion.
"It was a moment of fear," he said. "I'm thinking, 'God forbid this person has a gun and decides to open fire. It is a fear that lingered in his mind even as the two kissed.
Weeks later, those slurs continue to linger.
"It's just sad that that is now ingrained for the rest of our lives in our wedding day," said Jackson. "That person took a chunk of what should have been a beautiful day and turned it into something nasty and full of hate."
De Las Salas said, "He took from me, my husband, and my guests a moment of joy, a simple moment of joy."
The couple did write letters to the city of Coronado and the condo complex's HOA and received letters that included apologies.
Same-Sex Marriage and Children is the first book to bring together historical, social science, and legal considerations to comprehensively respond to the objections to same-sex marriage that are based on the need to promote so-called "responsible procreation" and child welfare. Carlos A. Ball places the current marriage debates within a broader historical context by exploring how the procreative and child welfare claims used to try to deny same-sex couples the opportunity to marry are similar to earlier arguments used to defend interracial marriage bans, laws prohibiting disabled individuals from marrying, and the differential treatment of children born out of wedlock. Ball also draws a link between welfare reform and same-sex marriage bans by explaining how conservative proponents have defended both based on the need for the government to promote responsible procreation among heterosexuals.
In addition, Ball examines the social science studies relied on by opponents of same-sex marriage and explains in a highly engaging and accessible way why they do not support the contention that biological status and parental gender matter when it comes to parenting. He also explores the relevance of the social science studies on the children of lesbians and gay men to the question of whether same-sex couples have a constitutional right to marry. In doing so, the book looks closely at the gay marriage cases that recently reached the Supreme Court and explains why the constitutionality of same-sex marriage bans cannot be defended on the basis that maintaining marriage as an exclusively heterosexual institution helps to promote the best interests of children. Same-Sex Marriage and Children will help lawyers, law professors, judges, legislators, social and political scientists, historians, and child welfare officials-as well as general readers interested in matters related to marriage and families-understand the empirical and legal issues behind the intersection of same-sex marriage and children's welfare.
|© 2014 Arizona Equality|